I have profoundly underestimated...
Monday, May 23rd, 2011 16:30![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cookiecutter...the power of the marriage bond.
Came to me as a huge shock. So many little things... which I dearly miss. Things i did NOT expect to miss.
Socks on the floor. Packing leftover dinner for the next day's bento. Baileys vs Beer. Hanging laundry. Walking to the grocery shop to buy organic milk. Baking muffins. Or Cookies. Peeling grapefruits. Morning hugs. The hugs after your work. Watching CSI. Roasting vegetables. Naming the pillow myuk. Knittings. Post-it notes on the toilet seat. Strolling by Aker Brygge. Ice skating. Pizza at Brugata. Getting the cheeks pinched. Drooling over organic soap products at Body Shop. Flat feet jokes. Asking if I remember my keys/cards/phone/transport card before leaving the house. Losing my keys/cards/phone/transport card in random jacket pockets. Cooking surprise food. You washing the dishes after I cook. Playing baseball. Sharing chocolates. Being paralyzed after a fight. Recycling paper and plastic bottles and beer cans. Making pancakes during the weekends. Going for evening runs. Cafe chats. Growing vegetables.
The little things. The routine things. The comforts and emotional security of that routine. Small little events, but life-defining. Insanely bonding.
The truth is, no matter how hard or difficult life gets, when two people are married, they end up giving up a large part of their lives to each other (whether they like it or not!). To severe that bond - good or bad - would be like ripping flesh apart. The bond is so powerful; any attempt to destroy it would destroy the couple itself.
It is a bond that I have severely underestimated...
Moral of the story (subjective to opinions of people):
1) Do not marry when you're unsure
2) Do not marry under pressure (especially parental pressure)
3) Do not marry BEFORE you've figured out what you want to do with your life. And WHERE in the world you want to live in.
In short, do not marry if there is hesitation of ANY sort. And do not marry when under 25 years of age.
