Hard To Say I'm Sorry

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-- By Chicago. Till today, it's one of my favourite songs. 




“Everybody needs a little time away.” I heard her say, “From each other.”

“Even lovers need a holiday, far away, from each other” 

Hold me now, It's hard for me to say I'm sorry 
I just want you to stay, after all that we've been through 
I will make it up to you, I promise to 
And after all that's been said and done 
You're just the part of me I can't let go

Couldn't stand to be kept away just for the day from your body 
Wouldn't wanna be swept away, far away, from the one that I love 

Hold me now, it's hard for me to say I'm sorry 
I just want you to know 

Hold me now, I really want to tell you I'm sorry 
I could never let you go 
After all that we've been through
I will make it up to you, I promise to
And after all that's been said and done 
You're just the part of me I can't let go 

After all that we've been through 
I will make it up to you I promise to 

You're gonna be the lucky one 
When we get there gonna jump in the air 
No one will see us 'cause there's nobody there 
After all, you know we really don't care 
Hold on, I'm gonna take you there

 

Hold me now, I really want to tell you I'm sorry 
I could never let you go 
After all that we've been through 
I will make it up to you, I promise to 
And after all that's been said and done 
You're just the part of me I can't let go 

 

The song reminds me to be a little more humble, a little more understanding, a little more... humane.  Yet, sometimes saying Sorry is just one part of a big picture. The other alternative is not to make the same mistake again - which in some ways is harder than apologizing. Yet at the same times there's consequences for saying Sorry. Not saying it enough breeds arrogance, and saying it too much diminishes its meaning. And there's always other factors that get in the way - fear of rejection, fear of not receiving forgiveness, bad memories in the past, knowing the other person is wrong too, the feeling of vulnerability, notions of inadequacy,  opening the path for additional criticism, admitting you were wrong (or equally wrong). Or admitting fault despite knowing you're not wrong.  

So many words, so much to say, so little room for expression.

" Saying sorry shows you love that you care enough" --  my ex-lecturer.

Something to think about.


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